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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2017-03-15 06:40 pm

[ SECRET POST #3724 ]

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(Anonymous) 2017-03-15 11:59 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah, we had that, too, and the amount of trouble we got into was insane. It's lucky that none of us were seriously injured or even killed. Some of the things that we got into could have easily gone that way. I don't blame parents for being more watchful, especially given that neighborhoods are not how they used to be; people move more often - they don't stick with the same jobs or areas. I've lived in my house for 8 years and not a single neighbor that was here when I moved in is here now.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-16 12:17 am (UTC)(link)
I think learning how to get into trouble and get out of trouble is a valuable lesson that kids need to learn without their parents watching every move and swooping in to save the day the moment they get a bruise.

We always had adults (and plenty of) within shouting distance of us and while there were some injuries (mostly twisted ankles and scrapes) nothing really bad ever happened to any of us.

I don't know, there's something to be said for trusting your kids to not be morons. People generally try to live up to expectations. If you expect them to be stupid and clueless all the time, they're going to be. If you trust them to be responsible and careful more, then they'll learn to be because you trust them.

Growing up we were never without someone nearby to help if we needed it, but nobody hovered over us either. I feel like that was a healthier way for kids to grow up because it fostered independence instead of dependence. I've seen people rip into parents for having the nerve to read a book on a park bench while their kids play ten feet away these days and I just... can't fathom the assumption that eyes need to be on the kid every second.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-16 12:20 am (UTC)(link)
I find that - ripping apart a parent for reading a book - to be as ridiculous. There is a lot of room in the middle. I wouldn't let my kids going running around this neighborhood, where I know everyone, but I would drop them off at the park where there are parents while I run to the grocery store.