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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2017-03-19 03:29 pm

[ SECRET POST #3728 ]

⌈ Secret Post #3728 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2017-03-19 07:49 pm (UTC)(link)
Blacklist their name(s) and anything else that might have to do with them. Not everyone picks up on or cares about the negative traits and behaviours of BNFs, and plenty of others can forgive those in time, especially if the person in question dies. And there are still some others who seem to really enjoy publicly grieving, so they'll usually make the most noise when someone in their circle dies.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-19 07:53 pm (UTC)(link)
*Drive-by comment to awwwww at the cute kitty*

(Anonymous) 2017-03-19 09:20 pm (UTC)(link)
They're not going to stop.

If it really annoys you that people are talking about a recently deceased person that meant something to them, then it's on you to ignore those discussions. Block the tags, avoid the threads, whatever you need to do. Otherwise, you're just going to have to accept that, like ogres and onions, BNFs have layers and some people have better memories of this one than you do.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-19 10:24 pm (UTC)(link)
I can understand where you're coming from, it's kind of a weird feeling when someone you don't like passes away.

I had that happen with someone in fandom years back, they were just a terrible person for a few reasons but I found out they passed and it was just odd. Thankfully I didn't really interact with their friends so I didn't have to talk about it often except with a few mutual friends who also didn't like her.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-20 03:41 am (UTC)(link)
I really know that feeling, anon. Recently, a member of my local fannish circle died, and everybody was talking about what a great person he'd been...

But he'd been cheating on two of my friends, with each other. I was the one who had to sit with both of them when they cried because he'd convinced them both that they were "the one."

Rather than deal with the awkward, I just kinda withdrew.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-20 08:44 am (UTC)(link)
"Rather than deal with the awkward, I just kinda withdrew."

I think this is wise decision, one I can respect. Like, I knew there was this girl who did not get along with (and possibly hated) a relative of mine who passed. And she didn't say a thing. I really valued that silence, when my relatives so called friends were posting insensitive comments of FB where those who were grieving could see it.