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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-06-22 03:41 pm

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(frozen comment) I'm in real trouble.

(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 08:52 pm (UTC)(link)
I might lose my job here. Shit I'm defnintly going to lose m job, I might have legal problems too. I don't know what to do, and I need help.

So I work in a small business, with two male owners, and 5 employees. Me and one other woman. Today in the break room, one of the creeps who works there, I caught him looking at my tits, and I lost my temper. I threw my drink at him. it was coffee. Freshly made black coffee. my friend is saying he's might lose the use of his eye. I was sent home and have a meeting on Monday with the bosses. presumably so they canlet mego. Apparently he might press criminal charges as well.

I don't know why I'm posting this. I'm shitting bricks. I don't know what to do.

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 08:54 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm just fucking SICK of creepy sleazy fucks, and I just reacted.

Oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck.

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 08:57 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah, you're almost certainly getting fired. I doubt the legal issue will pop up, though, because it's not even worth an assault charge, and it would waste everyone's time and money.

Stop throwing drinks at people, I guess? I can't say I blame you, but if you actually "lost your temper," you probably need some sort of help and fewer social situations for a while anyway.

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:02 pm (UTC)(link)
The guy may lose the use of his eye. You can be damn sure there will be charges. And rightfully so.

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:07 pm (UTC)(link)
I still doubt it, unless the dude is really pissed and actually does lose use of his right eye. Until the "might" is taken out of the occasion (and considering OP heard from a friend and not a doctor, it's a big might) all they have is "threw coffee at him." Most criminal courts won't pursue that.
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[personal profile] ill_omened 2013-06-22 09:10 pm (UTC)(link)
Could go either way.

Not a lawyer, don't know what country the op is from etc, but here chances are it would receive and ABH rather than GBH (technically GBH if there was loss of the use of the eye, but probably would be downgraded), and they'd have to prove that the action was intentional and reckless. Depending upon what the op has said, that could be amazingly difficult and CPS would suggest it didn't meet the 51/49 test.

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[personal profile] dreemyweird 2013-06-22 09:01 pm (UTC)(link)
Frankly, I don't think it was a very adequate reaction. And he has every reason to be angry.

I do sympathize with you, too; but I don't think anything can be done in this situation? Unless you think you can come to an agreement with him, which, judging by the way your story sounds, you probably do not.

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:07 pm (UTC)(link)
You think I should try and talk with him? My friend said I'd better not.
What kind of agreement?

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:13 pm (UTC)(link)
Don't talk to him unless he starts the conversation, and don't lose your temper again.

Agreement in this case means settling it out of court, for money or compensation or something. He might just accept that you lost your job.

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:01 pm (UTC)(link)
fuck him. serves him right if you ask me. i'm sorry to say that you will need to find a new job though, and that sucks in this economy but you probably wont have to worry about an assault charge. you did right, anon don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:06 pm (UTC)(link)
She may have blinded a man. BLINDED a man. BLINDED. For looking at her breasts. BLINDED.

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:09 pm (UTC)(link)
what's your point? he was ogling her. do you know how degrading and dehumanizing that is? i say fair play.

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:10 pm (UTC)(link)
In one eye. It was obviously an overreaction, but it definitely could have been worse.

I don't agree with the AYRT, but let's not get the facts twisted.

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:11 pm (UTC)(link)
so? he deserved it

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:05 pm (UTC)(link)
He won't press charges because he was sexually harassing you, remember that. If you had went to your boss about it you might have been walking away from that job with a pay check. As it is, you'll be walking away without a reference, but at least he'll be walking away with one less eye.

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:09 pm (UTC)(link)
Looking at someone's breast does not count as sexual harassment as long as he wasn't repeatedly staring or being lewd about it. For all she knows, he was just glancing at them. Have you never glanced at a guy's ass? Crotch? Arms? That is not a fucking excuse to possibly blind someone.

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[identity profile] galerian-ash.livejournal.com 2013-06-22 09:13 pm (UTC)(link)
Aside from losing your job, I hope you go to jail. You're a disgusting excuse for a human being.

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:15 pm (UTC)(link)
Because she lost her temper? Are you even serious right now?

She deserves to lose her job, no doubt about that, but it's only the fact that her aim is good that she's even at risk for going to jail. They'll never be able to prove she did it on purpose, and as long as it's still considered an accident? She doesn't deserve to go to jail.

Get a grip.

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:17 pm (UTC)(link)
no u

the guy OGLED HER TITS, he deserved what he got and more

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:18 pm (UTC)(link)
MRA much?

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:14 pm (UTC)(link)
What can you do but look for another job and deal with the consequences as they arise?

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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:16 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't know. I don't know what to do.
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[personal profile] writerserenyty 2013-06-22 09:16 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm very torn. On the one hand, sexual harassment sucks, and you had every right to be pissed. On the other hand, shit, blindness? I mean, I know what you did was a gut reaction, but still, if I was blinded for looking at someone you can bet I would press charges. I can sympathize with you, OP, but this isn't good.

As for what you should do, I guess you just need to wait and see what happens. Explain yourself and your situation. If it gets to criminal charges, get a good lawyer, who will most definitely play up the sexual harassment.

Have you ever confronted anyone about the sexual harassment? Documented anything? Told your employers? Do you know if the other woman has had issues with this too? These things could potentially help you if you need to defend yourself against these criminal charges.
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(Anonymous) 2013-06-22 09:31 pm (UTC)(link)
jesus christ, he's a dick but you threw boiling hot coffee in his face for looking at your tits???