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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-08-31 03:28 pm

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(Anonymous) 2013-08-31 07:47 pm (UTC)(link)
be a theater actor! they tend to have less anti-fans.

(Anonymous) 2013-09-03 06:12 am (UTC)(link)

that was a joke, right?
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[personal profile] fahrbotdrusilla 2013-08-31 07:47 pm (UTC)(link)
if that's what you want to do, fuck the haters and do it anyway. You'll have to have a hard skin to take the media so fans/non-fans shouldn't be anything to worry about.

(also there is no telling if you'll get anywhere near as famous as people who get the brunt of the h8)
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[personal profile] hiyami 2013-08-31 07:49 pm (UTC)(link)
And so what if they do, as long as they don't act on it? You'll be safe if you don't read online criticisms.

Besides, that's assuming you'd become a *successful* actor who has enough jobs to pay the rent and have people have an opinion about. Really, being hated by random people is the last thing you should worry about in your project of becoming an actor.
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[personal profile] dreemyweird 2013-08-31 08:22 pm (UTC)(link)

And honestly, haters gonna hate.

also, yes, you can become a theater actor. The theatrical world used to be an emotionally poisonous place, I think, but with the birth of cinematograph the passions seem to have subsided.

(Anonymous) 2013-08-31 08:07 pm (UTC)(link)
solution: be less sanctimonious and oblivious than she is
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[personal profile] queerwolf 2013-08-31 08:09 pm (UTC)(link)
I like her as an actress...

But yeah, don't let random internet strangers' opinions stop you from pursuing your dream.

(Anonymous) 2013-08-31 08:11 pm (UTC)(link)
There are lots of actresses fandom likes. Just don't write a pretentious lifestyle blog and you'll be OK.
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[personal profile] dreemyweird 2013-08-31 08:19 pm (UTC)(link)
WTF, I thought everyone loved her?? Apparently am missing something

[personal profile] anonlulz 2013-08-31 08:20 pm (UTC)(link)

Came here to say that. WTF? She's awesome!

(Anonymous) 2013-08-31 08:28 pm (UTC)(link)
Maybe OP means GP and not Pepper (because I'm pretty sure most people love Pepper).

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(Anonymous) 2013-08-31 08:35 pm (UTC)(link)
yeah if you're making a good living as an in-demand actress and you are still bothered by obscure fan communities most people wouldn't even know how to find, not even celebrity blogs or magazines, saying shit about you, I'm surprised you're okay performing in front of an audience period.

(Anonymous) 2013-08-31 09:17 pm (UTC)(link)
I like her! I just don't talk about her much because I don't ship any of the characters she plays. :)

(Anonymous) 2013-08-31 09:23 pm (UTC)(link)
Are you me?

[personal profile] transcriptanon 2013-08-31 09:43 pm (UTC)(link)
[Picture is Gwyneth Paltrow playing Peppet Potts in the "Iron Man" movies, holding the yellow and red Iron Man helmet.]

I want to be an actress so badly. But I'm in fandoms; I know how brutal fans can be. I'm scared everyone hates me.

Picture sorta related because apparently nobody really likes her.

(Anonymous) 2013-08-31 09:45 pm (UTC)(link)
tbh I would be more worried about how super competitive that work area is, the corruption, the currency of favors and having to be buddies with the right people, the favoritism, the nepotism, the rampant drug abuse and prejudices, etc. etc.

but yeah, like someone above said, the whole "fearing what people will think of my performance" kinda beats that in a more primordial level, I guess
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Speaking as a stage actress

[personal profile] elephantinegrace 2013-08-31 09:49 pm (UTC)(link)
The chances that you'll become well-known enough to attract the kind of attention that scares you is very, very small. Almost non-existent, in fact. I've done professional plays, musicals, and operas for six years now, and I'm still employed by the community theater. The worst things you will ever read about yourself are going to be one- or two-sentence mentions in newspaper reviews. That's not to say that you won't be crushed to read them, but aside from the occasional poorly-spelled FaceBook post, it's highly doubtful that anyone will actively hate you enough to write about it where you could read it. But you'll eventually decide to take the criticism as advice (and if you don't, you don't have a place on the stage) and you'll improve. Do it for the art, do it for the passion, do it for the fun, but don't do it for the praise. You'll be disappointed.

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(Anonymous) 2013-08-31 10:59 pm (UTC)(link)
This is not the worst hurdle you will face as an actress, dearest anon.

Acting is pretty tough to succeed in just in general. Acting can also be hard to study - I've heard some horror stories from the school a friend of mine goes to (she's going to be a director/theatre producer, not an actress, though). It's tough, a lot of people drop out because it's emotionally draining and the teachers can be brutally honest about somebody's lack of potential. (This is a really good British drama school, too, that's produced a ton of good actors.)

So if you really want to be an actor, dedicate yourself to it, and don't worry about any possible anti-fans from the potential future you may never ever get to, because none of your projects will be that popular. That's the cold hard truth, and it sucks. If you have the passion for it, go for in it a big bad way (but also think about a back up plan, because acting may not be a career you want to stick with after you find yourself struggling to get work for years and years).

And if you do get there, one day, don't read shit online.

Ps. I personally dislike Gwyneth's silly over-privileged life style bullshit, but I LOVE HER as an actress. She's been in a ton of my favourite films, and I will never not go see a film because of the things she says in the media (which I try to ignore anyway).


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[personal profile] blueonblue 2013-08-31 11:23 pm (UTC)(link)
Most actors don't have fandoms. The odds of becoming as famous as Gwyneth Paltrow are very low, like winning the lottery low. It's possible to make a decent living playing a cop in a procedural and spending the summers doing Shakespeare in Oregon.

In other words, don't worry about fans on the internet, work on developing your skills.

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[personal profile] chibichan 2013-08-31 11:26 pm (UTC)(link)
I have a few things to say to you, OP.

First, anyone can hate/judge you. People will not just judge you because you suddenly become famous. The people around you can judge you. Even strangers on the street who don't have any idea what kind of person you are can judge you and hate you if they want. It's just what some people do, regardless of you being famous or not. That said, if you do become famous, then it'll be easier to find people's opinions of you on the internet and such.

Ask yourself what exactly you are afraid of. Are you afraid of the hatred/judgment of people in general? Are you afraid of actually finding such stuff on the internet and reading it? Do you think you're going to care more about people's opinions if you became famous or do you already care about that now?

If you're scared of people's opinions of you, you need to learn to deal with it - regardless of whether you become famous or not, and especially if you tend to worry a lot about that. I should know, because for years I constantly worried about what people might think of me. (I didn't want to become a famous actress or anything - I was just worried in general.) Then I learned to deal with it and I was so much happier. So, if you find that you're having this problem now that you're not famous, and that you care too much about what strangers think of you, then my personal advice is to learn to deal with that first. You life will just become so much easier and so much better.

If you're afraid of finding stuff and reading it, my personal advice is just not to go looking for it. Which is easier said than done, but you have to try and not give in. This, at least, can be avoided.

In general, though, not everyone will hate you. You just can't please everyone - there will always be that one person (or more) who doesn't like you, but that's just the way it is, everywhere, not just in Hollywood. But you will have fans, too. You will probably have more fans than haters. Also, keep in mind that the haters are complete strangers. Not that the fans aren't, but just remember that the haters don't know you personally. They might dislike the way you act, the way you dress, the way you talk or even just the way you look, but they will never know you personally. They can dislike some things of you, or some things that you do, but they can never truly dislike you as a person, simply because they don't know you. So their opinion is not the most important opinion on the planet. The reason why I care what my boyfriend thinks of me is because he's an important person in my life and he knows me personally; I will not care what "Bob" (random guy's name) or that lady down the street thinks of me, because they're not important to me, they don't know me, therefore their opinion doesn't matter. You will need to learn to give weight to certain people's opinions and not those of others'.

Anyway, all I'm trying to say is, definitely go for it and don't let your fears hold you back! And I hope some of my advice made sense and was helpful, even a tiny bit.

(Anonymous) 2013-09-01 02:06 am (UTC)(link)
It's not just fandoms that are vicious - the entire celebrity industry (if you were to get far enough to be considered famous) can be cut throat. But that doesn't mean you should give up on your passion, it just means you need to develop a thick skin, strong support network and a good understanding of your values and whose opinions do and do not matter to you. Which are, coincidentally, attributes that would benefit any adult in the real world. So stress less, OP, and all the best of luck to you!

(Anonymous) 2013-09-01 04:28 am (UTC)(link)
Well, than maybe you shouldn't be an actress.

To be an actress you'll need very thick skin. It's a job that involves a lot of rejections, and a lot of criticism. People will judge you by the way you look and by the way you behave.

It's tougher than it may look.

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(Anonymous) 2013-09-01 08:43 am (UTC)(link)
OP if you achieve GP's level of fame, you really won't care. Do you think she does? Even if you found out what fans think, which you won't ever need to, let's face it, just check your bank balance and feel better.

I heard GP being interviewed about the last Iron Man film, she had no idea what even happened it, what it was about, she just wasn't interested. Somehow I think fans are the least of her worries. Most actors just want to get work, pay the mortgage, kids school fees etc, just like everyone else.

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(Anonymous) 2013-09-03 11:01 pm (UTC)(link)
I like her and think she's fantastic but yeah, I know that feel.