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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2017-03-12 03:52 pm

[ SECRET POST #3721 ]

⌈ Secret Post #3721 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2017-03-12 09:48 pm (UTC)(link)
i mean, there is a lot of random, unwarranted elitism among bibliophiles on the internet. it's easy to get a little butthurt.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-12 09:57 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah. But OP references posts on tumblr where people enthuse about loving book and their book-loving habits. All the quotes OP mentions are "I" quotes. How is it that people talking about what they like to do an attack on OP? It just seems like OP's bitterness is a little... well, out of left field and maybe stemming from their own baggage more than anything else.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-12 10:21 pm (UTC)(link)
ah, gotcha! and i did kind of relate op's secret to tumblr too, so hey, same page.

i think it depends a little on what exactly you want out of the bibliophile side of tumblr. if it's a passive thing for you, then yeah, obviously op just sounds bitter and like they can't handle other people having fun.

however, and that's something i've personally noticed in quite a few tumblr pseudo-communities (other examples would be langblr and studyblr), if you want to be an active member of the community who actually connects to and makes friends with the people in it, whether or not you're adhering to a certain aesthetic/attitude can matter to a really weird degree, much, much more than it would in real life. it's not like you absolutely won't make friends or like no one is ever going to look at your posts, but it's statistically a lot more unlikely (and a lot harder) than if you also sit there yelling about tea, the $$$ you spend on new books, and decorate your shelves with pop figurines. which, yeah, can make you feel excluded and bitter in a 'community' that advertises itself as being 'for people who enjoy the same thing you do'.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-13 03:05 am (UTC)(link)
I dunno. I guess I don't get being mad that you don't fit in with a group whose tastes you don't actually share. Like if you don't like or want to yell about tea or brag about spending money on books and action figures, why be bitter that you're being excluded from a community who enjoys that type of thing? Even if you were included, you'd still be stuck in a community that's super enthusiastic about stuff you don't care about... and that would be awesome...?

Person A: I watch the occasional football game but I hate it when people talk about The Big Game, wear team merchandise and throw Superbowl/tailgate parties.
Persons B-G: We love football and talking about The Big Game! We love throwing Superbowl parties, swearing team merch and tailgating, pass the hot wings woooooooo!
Person A: Look at those assholes, being all elitist and excluding me from being a member of the Football Loving Community.

I mean... what? It just feels like Person A is looking for reasons to be mad.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-13 06:36 am (UTC)(link)
except it's more like
a: i'm a football fan, but i don't like watching the big game with people
b: but to be a football fan, you have to love that! you can't be a real football fan if you don't! in fact, we're going to regurgitate time and time again how you can only be a real football fan if you watch the game with people.
tumblr: you wanna talk about football? here are 50 blogs of people who think exactly like person b.
a: hot dang not fitting in is annoying, let's make a secret about it.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-13 10:54 am (UTC)(link)
More like "I'm a football fan. Watching football is my hobby. But the hardcore football fans make me feel left out. Follow a team? Whatever-- I'm not sure what the teams are. The names are all so weird -- the Someplace Something's. And they watch games every week during football season. Sometimes they watch more than one game in one day! Who's got time for that? I watch one game a year and the Super Bowl commercials on YouTube, and that's plenty. They talk about going to games at like, stadiums and things. That literally sounds like hell. Gee, I guess I don't like football that much. "

(Anonymous) 2017-03-13 06:44 pm (UTC)(link)
Except your analogy falls apart because it's clear from the secret itself that nobody is actually telling the OP they're not a "real" bibliophile. They just have a weird chip on their shoulder about people enjoying books in a way that doesn't match their own, then claiming to be excluded by people who are just stating their own personal preferences.

I can understand getting annoyed at tumblr for their suggestions, but it still doesn't make sense to be so bitter about it. It's not done to spite OP, but OP is determined to act like this is a personal insult and it's kind of weird.