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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2017-03-19 03:29 pm

[ SECRET POST #3728 ]

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(Anonymous) 2017-03-20 05:11 am (UTC)(link)

Obviously this will not be a popular comment, but I feel like the people who are interpreting Lorelai and Rory's relationship as unhealthy and co-dependent probably just have no experience with a parent like Lorelai, who manages to be such an excellent combination of friend and parent to her daughter.

I have one parent for whom parenting and friendship seem to be ideas she finds mutually exclusive. In her mind, you have to choose one, and the one you should choose is parenting. Now that I'm an adult and she has no control over me (i.e. no power to parent me in a manner I don't appreciate) we've managed to salvage a somewhat decent relationship. But I very nearly ended up disinterested in having her in my life.

Meanwhile my father has always subscribed to the idea that being a parent to your child and being their friend are not conflicting forms of relating. He parented me in ways that were fair and respectful to my personhood, and it was rare that our friendship was strained by his parenting of me. We are best friends to this day, and happily live together as adults without struggling to respect each other's autonomy.

Incidentally, we both love Gilmore Girls (the original series, not the new episodes) and have always identified strongly with their relationship.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-20 05:31 am (UTC)(link)

yeah I agree. People think it's unhealthy because they're friendly with each other, or something??

You should watch the new eps! I hadn't watched the show since before it ended, and I enjoyed them