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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2017-08-08 06:47 pm

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[personal profile] analise 2017-08-09 01:25 am (UTC)(link)
It doesn't bother me so much in fiction but OMG I haaaaaaate that super-public-proposal thing people do. Like what is the person being proposed to supposed to do? Everybody is expecting a yes but maybe they're not ready to get married or maybe they hate public displays like that and now their significant other has done this thing that shows they actually haven't given any consideration into how they might like to be proposed to. That would at least make me think twice a little about whether I wanted to marry someone who couldn't consider my feelings on that sort of subject.


It's topic I can't help but rant a little about, sorry. Carry on!

(Anonymous) 2017-08-09 03:17 am (UTC)(link)
Obviously not always the case, but I would think that, in real life, people who reach the point of marriage proposals (highly public or otherwise) are also far along enough in the relationship to have reasonable expectation of getting a 'yes'. It's not really the total surprise that movies make it seem.
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[personal profile] analise 2017-08-09 03:21 am (UTC)(link)

Oh, I get the expectation of a 'yes''s just the public spectacle of it. Maybe it's just because I would hate it so much if someone did that to me. I can only hope that the proposer knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that the proposee would be okay with that sort of thing hence my comment about having to second guess a little, maybe, if the my hypothetical proposer didn't take my own feelings into account.

Probably in most cases it's totally fine and it's my own discomfort speaking here.

(Anonymous) 2017-08-09 04:01 am (UTC)(link)
Beyond a shadow of a doubt is probably not possible, but in long-term relationships with marriage as a goal, people would probably have a good idea what their partners want out of a proposal. Obviously you shouldn't marry someone who didn't take your feelings into account, but why would we have to think this is happening in the first place? Most people tailor their proposals after ideas dropped by their partners, whether that be a highly public event or a moonlit waterfall setting.

(Anonymous) 2017-08-09 05:42 am (UTC)(link)
I was once witness to a public proposal while listening to a musical act in a bar. The guy even got the band in on it. The woman REALLY seemed to want to be anywhere else at that moment. She eventually said "Oh, all right." Not exactly an enthusiastic response. I was sitting there hoping someone would pull the fire alarm or something and put us all out of our misery. SO AWKWARD.