[ SECRET POST #7077 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #7077 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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02. [SPOILERS for Tiger and Bunny Season 2]




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03. [SPOILERS for Wrestlemania]




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04. [SPOILERS for Invincible (TV show) and maybe comics]




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05. [WARNING for discussion of JKR/transphobia]




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06. [WARNING for discussion of SA, child abuse]
















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Comments

Vent and a question I guess

[(Anonymous)]

I had this friend at uni who is trying to reconnect. This journey is already quite... interesting. But yesterday she annoyed the hell out of me.
We have been talking about activity I do and she asked if she can tag along since she is interested. I said yeah, sure. Now I am regretting everything.
She asked if I want to spend time afterwards. I said that no, I can't do it this weekend and a next one because I have plans afterwards, but I am open to spending time in two weeks time. And she started asking what my plans are after making fun that I need so much planning around. And that rubs me the wrong way so much. Why the fuck do you care about my plans? I am not inviting you.
And idk. Is this weird? I tend to be secretive. Or it was a rude question? Frankly I just can't be bothered telling all of my schedule.
Also we are adults. Why do you find it strange that I have fully planned weekends?

Re: Vent and a question I guess

[(Anonymous)]

Sounds like she is just teasing/joking trying to chat. Obviously doesn't vibe with you and thats okay.

I have friends I'd joke like this with, like "damn why you so busy? Need to pencil in friendship time" or something like that and they'd text/say something jokey or sarcastic back and we'd have a laugh and move on. But I have friends that would take that teasing as a judgment or rudeness so I know to communicate differently with them.

Also, busy every weekend is not the norm for my circle so it might not be for theirs. We usually complain about being busy every weekend if it happens lol we are a chill on the weekends type. My sister on the otherhand has something going on every weekend once the nice weather hits and will until winter.

Re: Vent and a question I guess

[(Anonymous)]

Frankly I find more annoying being pushy about learning my plans than teasing. I find teasing inappropriate because we are not that close, but I understand for what it is.
I mean I am not busy EVERY weekend, but I don't like people invaiding my planned chill time ahahaha. :D.

Re: Vent and a question I guess

[(Anonymous)]

And your reaction is valid!

It also depends on the person. Like there are some people where this would ALWAYS come off rude, you know? Like those people that "tease" but what they are really doing is being mean or invasive under the guise of teasing. Those people are the worst and it is so hard to tell over text.

Oh and I definitely tell people I'm busy when sometimes my "busy" is chill time in my garden or reading a book. Yes I have plans, amd thise plans are being by myself amd chilling XD

Re: Vent and a question I guess

[(Anonymous)]

Yup!
I do live an active life, but quite time in my bed is valuable too!
Also a lot of things I prefer doing alone. And I am planning for this too!

Re: Vent and a question I guess

[(Anonymous)]

I am sensitive to little comments or teasings that come off a bit judgmental so I understand how your friend's comment is annoying.

For me, if a friend makes a comment like "Oh wow you seem so busy. I have to schedule weeks ahead to hang out with you."
I'd take their words seriously and be like, "Ha yeah, if I don't set schedules I won't be able to keep up with my life."
Or a simple, "Is that an issue with you?" Because like...is it? Because I don't know why they're making that comment and I would like clarification.

I'm neurodivergent and grew up with a lot passively aggressive behavior and language, so the best way for me to navigate the world is to be direct. I often try to find ways to soften my need for clarity but sometimes all I can do is be direct.
Also, IME people who don't have ill intent in their question or teasing will be perfectly OK explaining. Whereas someone who was kind of being a jackass tends to act sheepish or defensive and all I have to do is stand there and watch them act like a fool.