[ SECRET POST #3785 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3785 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Grey's Anatomy]


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[iZombie]


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[Matthew Daddario]


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[Sleepy Hollow]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 32 secrets from Secret Submission Post #542.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt - I didn't read it that way. The anon ayrt was replying to seemed stuck on the idea that it's not possible to be elitist if you were being self-deprecating and that isn't really true. Elitism isn't necessarily about feeling superior because you have legitimately superior qualities, it's about feeling superior because you believe certain qualities superior - which is fine distinction, but an important one.

This idea isn't uncommon in geek culture. It may have started off as an outcast thing before it transformed into the popular mainstream thing it is today, but we can't deny that there's a segment of geek culture that took pride in being on the fringe. They did it in a more extreme way than the secret does, but it's pretty similar - by belittling what's popular and implying that they were better because they weren't blindly following the crowd. The extreme extreme end of this are fedora wearing atheists and red pillers, BTW.

Now, the secret isn't that rude about it and I don't agree at all with the anons who are calling OP names. But the sentiment is definitely present and it's something the OP may want to watch out for. Feeling isolated and afraid of not fitting in is terrible... but getting so lost in that "everyone is different than me" mindset will only exacerbate that, and stumbling into the "not like other girls" mindset tends to make someone more bitter and alone, not less.

There are tons of girls and women in fandom who like eclectic music, who put effort and thought into works that aren't widely recognized, who like coffee and t-shirts and don't wear pretty dresses or have perfect hair or whatever. I'd argue they outnumber the people on the left side of OP's secret, but they're not always very vocal so it's easy to underestimate just how many of them (of us!) there are.

The whole point of "not like other girls" is that sometimes women get into this mindset where they believe they're special, but "other girls" aren't for whatever reason. That's not true, and it's quite toxic thinking. Those "other girls" are, in fact, just like you. So what I'm saying is the opposite. OP shouldn't feel bad about the things in their secret. But they should realize that they're not as alone as they seem to think.

[(Anonymous)]

"Those "other girls" are, in fact, just like you."

ILU, nonnie. Yes. This.

[phantomas]

This.