I have lived my whole life like this, I have 24 years of experience, at least now I am old enough to understand.

I also genuinely love my mother, aunts and uncles, when they aren't too sick they are a lot of fun to be around. They are the nicest, most generous people I know.

But when things go to hell they tend to go seriously to hell, like SeaKing 'choppers looking in the water for your aunt kind of going to hell.

My mother sometimes lives with me, which is draining, but it helps on my being a poor student situation so there is that?