I find the people who like to shout about abuse the loudest in fandom are the ones with no understanding of it. It kind of infuriates me. Abuse isn't about a person making a mistake or having a disagreement, it's a method of control.

Plus it just so happens there's a pattern of all my lesbian ships(not lapis japser btw) get accused of being abusive... gee I wonder what's happening there.

But yeah, I wish tumblr would chill out with the abuse accusations. It's not helping anyone.