28: Whee for pre-internet fandoms! I can't remember ever slashing anything, but I used to write horrible Mary Sue fics about me and my favourite hockey players. Some of them were downright epic. Too bad I can't find them anymore, it'd be hilarious to go back and read them -- 14-15 years later.
Ah, I amused myself in interesting ways in my early teens.
68: I love Dan Savage as well -- I read his column and listen to his podcast every week. I don't know if I feel as strongly about it as you do, but I agree that he sometimes does marginalize lifestyles that a lot of us would associate with "normal." I think what he's getting at, however, is that no relationship is normal. People do have a piece on the side sometimes, and monogamy can be a lot more difficult than people would like to admit. I think what he is advocating is for honesty. You have a kink? Share it with your partner. You want to have sex with other people? Share it with your partner. I don't think he's trying to say that "normal" is bad, just that "normal" doesn't really exist.
Human beings have, for centuries, spoken of monogamy as though it is a given. The thing that he's trying to get at is that while it may be possible, it's very difficult over the long term and, perhaps, not entirely realistic.
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Ah, I amused myself in interesting ways in my early teens.
68: I love Dan Savage as well -- I read his column and listen to his podcast every week. I don't know if I feel as strongly about it as you do, but I agree that he sometimes does marginalize lifestyles that a lot of us would associate with "normal." I think what he's getting at, however, is that no relationship is normal. People do have a piece on the side sometimes, and monogamy can be a lot more difficult than people would like to admit. I think what he is advocating is for honesty. You have a kink? Share it with your partner. You want to have sex with other people? Share it with your partner. I don't think he's trying to say that "normal" is bad, just that "normal" doesn't really exist.
Human beings have, for centuries, spoken of monogamy as though it is a given. The thing that he's trying to get at is that while it may be possible, it's very difficult over the long term and, perhaps, not entirely realistic.