People become understandably annoyed when you tell them that the multiple instances of thoroughly consensual sex they've had while mildly drunk were actually rape, or simply were Not Okay.

Ugh, yes. So many people seem incapable of comprehending that there is an enormous spectrum between "had a beer or two & are now slightly buzzed" and "are so wasted that you aren't going to remember this in the morning." The latter is not cool, but you can be the former and be entirely capable of giving informed consent.