Yes, Simon accepting Nia's right to be her own person and therefore make her own decisions is the keystone of their relationship, and I've never said otherwise. But all of this is on "meta" level, which doesn't really have much to do with the ins and outs of a "romance". Simon and Nia could have meant the same thing to one another without romance ever coming into play, so it's not that I have an issue with the way their relationship was expressed in the series--but as a romance between two people, it lacks because there is no real sense of union.