There have been friends I've had in fandom before who I thought were decently close that seemed to drop off the face of the earth. My only contact info was over AIM or on an LJ that they never updated. Since I'm no longer on AIM 24/7 I never caught them online. There are a lot of people who if you disappear they'll assume you don't take them seriously, will be hurt and then will go away. If they have your phone number or some other direct way of contacting you then there's little excuse for not doing so if you disappear for awhile and have a history of regular contact. But if you don't talk every day and they don't have more direct ways of getting a hold of you then what are they supposed to do?
It's kind of like a girlfriend being mean to her boyfriend to see if he sticks around and "really loves her". Often times these things not only do more harm than good, but don't even give you any accurate information about how people feel in the process.
There's a girl I used to RP with who I really liked as a person. I only have her AIM name and I don't see her on often. When she is on I might be able to exchange a word or two but not much more for some reason or another. We used to talk a lot. I still worry about her since I know she had a lot on her plate and probably still does. But I haven't seen her on in a long while and have no other way of contacting her so there's absolutely nothing I can do about it.
Sorry if I sound a bit preachy. It isn't meant that way. I promise.
Re: OP of 172
There have been friends I've had in fandom before who I thought were decently close that seemed to drop off the face of the earth. My only contact info was over AIM or on an LJ that they never updated. Since I'm no longer on AIM 24/7 I never caught them online. There are a lot of people who if you disappear they'll assume you don't take them seriously, will be hurt and then will go away. If they have your phone number or some other direct way of contacting you then there's little excuse for not doing so if you disappear for awhile and have a history of regular contact. But if you don't talk every day and they don't have more direct ways of getting a hold of you then what are they supposed to do?
It's kind of like a girlfriend being mean to her boyfriend to see if he sticks around and "really loves her". Often times these things not only do more harm than good, but don't even give you any accurate information about how people feel in the process.
There's a girl I used to RP with who I really liked as a person. I only have her AIM name and I don't see her on often. When she is on I might be able to exchange a word or two but not much more for some reason or another. We used to talk a lot. I still worry about her since I know she had a lot on her plate and probably still does. But I haven't seen her on in a long while and have no other way of contacting her so there's absolutely nothing I can do about it.
Sorry if I sound a bit preachy. It isn't meant that way. I promise.