This would be the reason I've carried over the terms from my American-fandom ficcing and just say "slash" and "femmeslash." You can't say it wrong (unless you REALLY try), nobody's going to get all mad about using the "wrong term," and it's got a nice sound to it. :D

(I mean, come on. Make up your minds; is it shounen-ai, yaoi, or bl, bumsex, boysmex, or something entirely different? I mean, I always thought that shounen-ai referred specifically to teenaged boys. Seeing the way it's thrown around, clearly I was wrong.)