As for myself I didn’t marry a man, am asexual and have always been impartial to men in ways most of my peers couldnt relate. Because of that, you described exactly how I felt in the days of pre-SNS fandom, when “BNF” crews dominated fansites, mailing communities, forums. A lot of thirsting everywhere. A LOT of it. And I feel like older women who have been in fandom since those days tend to be like that even now, but that’s just a feeling. And that’s nice I mean, pretty sure our grandmas couldn’t do that because “a proper wife in the 50s!!” or whatever, so power to girls (and gay men?) thirsting over men in fandom spaces. But being a millennial I had the freedom to think “whew, that’s too much” and feel the exact opposite.
The good part is we are now free to curate our fandom experiences in huge SNS and thats what I do!
Re: Tumblr and attraction to men?
As for myself I didn’t marry a man, am asexual and have always been impartial to men in ways most of my peers couldnt relate. Because of that, you described exactly how I felt in the days of pre-SNS fandom, when “BNF” crews dominated fansites, mailing communities, forums. A lot of thirsting everywhere. A LOT of it. And I feel like older women who have been in fandom since those days tend to be like that even now, but that’s just a feeling. And that’s nice I mean, pretty sure our grandmas couldn’t do that because “a proper wife in the 50s!!” or whatever, so power to girls (and gay men?) thirsting over men in fandom spaces. But being a millennial I had the freedom to think “whew, that’s too much” and feel the exact opposite.
The good part is we are now free to curate our fandom experiences in huge SNS and thats what I do!