I totally get what you mean, but also, I DO have a niggling voice at the back of my mind that complains if I write simultaneous orgasms or skip refractory periods too, haha. So I never write that kind of "mindblowing sex" type of sex scene either, unless the sex has sci-fi or supernatural elements to it. So yeah, I know what it feels like to constantly be like, "But this sex isn't realistic..." when writing a sex scene. (And not saying other people have to cleave closely to realistic sex if they don't want to, but I just also understand the instinct a writer might have to want to avoiding writing sex that takes TOO many liberties with how people's bodily functions work.)