I'd like to add a vote of support for love memes. Why is it that saying someone nice about someone or even having the slightest drop of a sense of accomplishment/happiness with one's own work is somehow wanky/egotistical/a sign of being a bad person, while being abusive/destructive/mean/a troll/ stalkerish is applauded for being honest and direct and not egotistical?

When it's actually dishonest, indirect, and much more egotistical to stage an attack than to offer love?