I can't tell if you're a TV person or a book person; it sounds kind of like you're a tv person? If so ignore this post -- but know that a lot of the commenter above are coming from a place of a lot more exposure to the characters -- and exposure to people who hate them no matter WHAT they do, and excuse other characters doing much, much worse. If you are a book person:

Re: Sansa. Have you read AFFC?

SPOILERS



Re: Dany. Have you read ADWD?

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