It's such a weird thing though. I really don't know how to feel about this secret because I could easily see it either way. OP probably is trying hard... but maybe OP is also saying stuff that still rubs Friend the wrong way and Friend is just tired of it, you know? A kind of no-win situation. I mean, if I started telling people IRL that I hate sexist slurs and people saying "gay" and "retarded," I'd have no friends. I still hate them. And I'm sure my friends would feel like OP here. Who would be in the wrong? Well, in my opinion, nobody. I'd be standing up for what I believe in, and they would be standing up for their right to say what they want. Both are legitimate.