To add to the comments, Quesada did a lot in terms of giving other titles that many people didn't believe would work the opportunity and chance to grow. Some of the most critically acclaimed stuff Marvel had under his supervision were ones he actively fought to keep like Runaways and the Marvel Galaxy titles but never demanded tight fisted creative control over them. He let the stronger writers flourish in a way that DC editorial never would allow.

The problem with One More Day is that he had a major, major axe to grind in terms of how he personally saw Spider-Man. He wanted Peter single/never married and he wanted it in whatever way he could, going so far as to even draw panels for the One More Day issues, he was that invested in it. That determination to make Spider-Man the way he remembered him eclipsed everything to the point where the current Spider-Man writer wanted his name taken off the run due to Quesada's editorial meddling.

So essentially Quesada can be a dick in getting his way, but he mostly knew how to run the business. Even if it is a wildly reviled decision by lots of writers, critics and fans, the rest of what he's doing is working. That means fans basically have to suck it up and buy the titles they like and hope one day someone will find the means to retcon this retcon.