I would really agree with this. I think I've been pretty vocal in having a lot of problems with how the social justice atmosphere is on LJ and various communities, particularly in how it can treat people of the same group that don't necessarily agree or have had different experiences or such. No group is a monolith... but that's kinda another rant altogether.
I think I've been in various SJ related comms for, mm, close to 2 years now (wow, has it been that long!?). I have definitely seen some people start out being cheerful and helpful and offering links and explanations, to be met with further willful ignorance. And, well, it gets draining and depressing after awhile.
I have personally had enough people actually listen to me that I'm willing to whip out the handy links list, but I know that's not everyone's experience. It's also not anybody's responsibility, and sometimes I don't have the spoons to engage (but, granted, if I don't have the spoons, I don't generally comment at all).
There's a term called compassion fatigue that is perhaps relevant here. I think once you've dealt with enough bullshit, it gets to a point where you're just burnt-out and expecting the worst of people. Which, tbh, sucks from the perspective of someone who is trying to learn (because I've been there for stuff that doesn't apply to me personally), but having been there with GBLT and disability issues? Yeah. I can sympathize sometimes, especially if I've seen someone really go out of their way to try to help people and finally just snap.
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I think I've been in various SJ related comms for, mm, close to 2 years now (wow, has it been that long!?). I have definitely seen some people start out being cheerful and helpful and offering links and explanations, to be met with further willful ignorance. And, well, it gets draining and depressing after awhile.
I have personally had enough people actually listen to me that I'm willing to whip out the handy links list, but I know that's not everyone's experience. It's also not anybody's responsibility, and sometimes I don't have the spoons to engage (but, granted, if I don't have the spoons, I don't generally comment at all).
There's a term called compassion fatigue that is perhaps relevant here. I think once you've dealt with enough bullshit, it gets to a point where you're just burnt-out and expecting the worst of people. Which, tbh, sucks from the perspective of someone who is trying to learn (because I've been there for stuff that doesn't apply to me personally), but having been there with GBLT and disability issues? Yeah. I can sympathize sometimes, especially if I've seen someone really go out of their way to try to help people and finally just snap.