AYRT, yes the scene is totally played out like that. Bear in mind that Bardem is an uber Bond villain, he's horrible. Although with a great back story and motivations that really make sense as to how he got the way he was. So it's not like Bond is likely to be attracted to him as such, and the dynamic is more a brother thing with M being their mother if anything.

I can see why the person made it a secret, because you do feel bad as it's non consensual groping! But it does have that homoerotic thing going on.