Why can't you control that? You can decide how you're going to act or react to something/someone, unless you're in a life-or-death situation or something. Which attraction isn't.
If I was actively looking to be attracted to someone, I would be. As I am not, it really doesn't register on me if someone is "attractive" or unattractive.
This gets me in a lot of trouble though because I treat everyone equally and try to be friendly to everyone.... and every unmarried person of the opposite sex that I have been friendly towards, have always misinterpreted my being friendly as my being attracted to them. When I really really wasn't.
If they think their own reactions (to my being friendly) are beyond their control and involuntary (it isn't, not if you don't want it to be), then I have even less respect than I did for these people, once I realized they were taking my being friendly to be something it wasn't.
Re: Is it wrong...
Why can't you control that? You can decide how you're going to act or react to something/someone, unless you're in a life-or-death situation or something. Which attraction isn't.
If I was actively looking to be attracted to someone, I would be. As I am not, it really doesn't register on me if someone is "attractive" or unattractive.
This gets me in a lot of trouble though because I treat everyone equally and try to be friendly to everyone.... and every unmarried person of the opposite sex that I have been friendly towards, have always misinterpreted my being friendly as my being attracted to them. When I really really wasn't.
If they think their own reactions (to my being friendly) are beyond their control and involuntary (it isn't, not if you don't want it to be), then I have even less respect than I did for these people, once I realized they were taking my being friendly to be something it wasn't.