The thing is, the really jail worthy actions are usually built straight into the story - and removing them pretty much destroys the story. The realistic abuse? Not so much - plus a lot of us had to live with that kind of behavior growing up and have it written off as 'Well, they weren't *hitting* you, so it's not *really* abuse...' or something along those lines. So excusing that? Hits way too many things that are close to home.