(Anon above you who tried to explain some of these things)

I am so sorry that you had to go through all of that (and more that you didn't describe, I'm sure). I hope you were eventually able to find a way out, or that you are able to soon. *hugs if wanted* You're absolutely right that people in abusive relationships are often cut off from most or all of their escape options -- that's the nature of abuse, and the nature of a society that normalizes abuse. Neither you nor anyone else who has been through domestic abuse should ever be blamed for not getting out.