I know, it seems like it should be. But it's so important because the ghost thought his daughter died when he did, so there's no family heirloom stuff whatsoever, and it's set in Richmond, so it's not a small town - otherwise it would have been clear earlier that she survived and had kids. A lot of marriage records seem to only list the husband's name, period. Census records from 1900 list the names of everyone in the the household and their relationship, but again, under the husband's name. I just don't know.