I've been single my whole life. I'm not weird or anything (I don't think, anyway), but I'm in my late 20s now. And I see everyone around me in relationships, and it mostly seems to make people happy, and I'd kind of like to join the club. But it's never clicked with me. And so when people tell me "One day it will be your turn!" when there is no guarantee of that, it's kind of...not really helpful. It's not really helpful to have the people in relationships come along and say, "Oh, it's not the be-all end-all!" not because I don't believe them (because duh), but because that isn't the point. I'm in my late 20s. I have a college degree. I have a steady, if totally uninspiring, job. I have hobbies and friends and I do fun stuff in my spare time. And I do all this single, so obviously I am totally capable of handling the whole IRL thing without somebody there to hold my hand. I know it isn't the be-all, end-all. I don't think it's stupid for me to sometimes want somebody to hold my hand anyway.
Basically, it doesn't ever happen for some people, even if they aren't weird. At this point, I'm thinking I'm one of them. And that's fine because my life is awesome, but it's lonely sometimes and I don't have an SO to call and pester about that. And if this is you, there isn't really something people can say, but every time they try it just kind of reminds you that you don't have this. You pretty much have to learn to deal with it on your own.
Re: I wanna fall in love
I've been single my whole life. I'm not weird or anything (I don't think, anyway), but I'm in my late 20s now. And I see everyone around me in relationships, and it mostly seems to make people happy, and I'd kind of like to join the club. But it's never clicked with me. And so when people tell me "One day it will be your turn!" when there is no guarantee of that, it's kind of...not really helpful. It's not really helpful to have the people in relationships come along and say, "Oh, it's not the be-all end-all!" not because I don't believe them (because duh), but because that isn't the point. I'm in my late 20s. I have a college degree. I have a steady, if totally uninspiring, job. I have hobbies and friends and I do fun stuff in my spare time. And I do all this single, so obviously I am totally capable of handling the whole IRL thing without somebody there to hold my hand. I know it isn't the be-all, end-all. I don't think it's stupid for me to sometimes want somebody to hold my hand anyway.
Basically, it doesn't ever happen for some people, even if they aren't weird. At this point, I'm thinking I'm one of them. And that's fine because my life is awesome, but it's lonely sometimes and I don't have an SO to call and pester about that. And if this is you, there isn't really something people can say, but every time they try it just kind of reminds you that you don't have this. You pretty much have to learn to deal with it on your own.