Two people who are not friends don't really do the going for coffee thing either. We spend time with people we know and they might know someone who knows someone.

What do you do if you move to a new city where you don't know anyone? Never mind dating, how do you make friends if it's inappropriate to ask people if they want to hang out or go do something outside of work or wherever you know they from? (I have a hard enough time making friends as it is and now I'm starting to make a mental note never to move to a Scandinavian country because I'd probably wind up some kind of lonely hermit because I wouldn't already be part of a group of friends.)