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(Anonymous) 2017-03-19 08:24 pm (UTC)(link)They did often act like sisters in the later years. It was more obvious in their actions in the early years that they were mother and daughter.
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So in a way, I guess I can relate.
It is a show for hipster girls though, hipster girls who are really into coffee
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(Anonymous) 2017-03-19 08:21 pm (UTC)(link)Not saying its healthy or that the show should glamorize it, but it is kinda realistic from my limited experience.
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(Anonymous) 2017-03-19 10:27 pm (UTC)(link)And I don't think they were trying to glamorize it because it did feel like the characters struggled with their dynamic at times.
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(Anonymous) 2017-03-20 01:05 am (UTC)(link)I think Lorelai being a single mom plays a pretty big role too. She was lonely and she looked to Rory to fill up that space. Not healthy, no, but definitely realistic.
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(Anonymous) 2017-03-20 04:15 am (UTC)(link)And on the other hand I had a more traditional mom but after I became an adult me and my mom started acting more like friends.
Their relationship never seemed far fetched to me.
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(Anonymous) 2017-03-20 05:11 am (UTC)(link)Obviously this will not be a popular comment, but I feel like the people who are interpreting Lorelai and Rory's relationship as unhealthy and co-dependent probably just have no experience with a parent like Lorelai, who manages to be such an excellent combination of friend and parent to her daughter.
I have one parent for whom parenting and friendship seem to be ideas she finds mutually exclusive. In her mind, you have to choose one, and the one you should choose is parenting. Now that I'm an adult and she has no control over me (i.e. no power to parent me in a manner I don't appreciate) we've managed to salvage a somewhat decent relationship. But I very nearly ended up disinterested in having her in my life.
Meanwhile my father has always subscribed to the idea that being a parent to your child and being their friend are not conflicting forms of relating. He parented me in ways that were fair and respectful to my personhood, and it was rare that our friendship was strained by his parenting of me. We are best friends to this day, and happily live together as adults without struggling to respect each other's autonomy.
Incidentally, we both love Gilmore Girls (the original series, not the new episodes) and have always identified strongly with their relationship.
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(Anonymous) 2017-03-20 05:31 am (UTC)(link)yeah I agree. People think it's unhealthy because they're friendly with each other, or something??
You should watch the new eps! I hadn't watched the show since before it ended, and I enjoyed them
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That being said, Rory was the worst part of that show. I always forget how awful she is until I re-watch. She's not that bad on her own, but if I marathon I end up raging at Rory.
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But every time Rory goes "HOW DARE MY MOTHER GO ON DATES AND NOT TELL ME" or "MY MOTHER IS DATING INAPPROPRIATE PEOPLE"
Gee, last time I checked, Rory's dating history wasn't so spotless either.
Best part of that show is Sookie though-- I love her so much and just always want to hug her!
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(Anonymous) 2017-03-19 10:55 pm (UTC)(link)Also, that grandmother is fucking awful. I just couldn't get behind any of the characters.
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(Anonymous) 2017-03-19 11:38 pm (UTC)(link)I liked the characters but sometimes I just wanted to scream at them STOP IT YOURE BEING A MORON. :x
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(Anonymous) 2017-03-20 12:38 am (UTC)(link)I would say that they are unusually close, and that both of them make mistakes, but how are they codependent?
Parts of this show have always resonated with me because I am the more serious daughter of a "free spirit" single mother. But it didn't mean she wasn't being my parent and she wasn't clear on where those boundaries were. If OP is just going off gifs of them bantering at home, I don't think this is justified at all.