[ SECRET POST #2670 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2670 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Dan Vs.]


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03.
[Mysterious Cities Of Gold]


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04.
[Sherlock]


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05.
[Drazen Bratulic]


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06.
[Captain America]


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07.
[Smash]


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08.
[El Goonish Shive]


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10. http://i59.tinypic.com/2eebuv6.jpg
[porn, Frozen, illustrated]


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11. [SPOILERS for Shameless US]



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12. [WARNING for suicide]



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13. [WARNING for rape]



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14. [WARNING for domestic violence]



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15. [WARNING for rape/sexual assault]














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Comments

THAT'S WORSE!

[insanenoodlyguy]

NO.

You would think folks here would understand this better then most... A lot of people around here are awkard. Lacking some social perceptions. May have had some history with social problems.

So the rejection, when they figure it out, feels like just that. Not that somebody dindn't like giving them rides, but that somebody didn't like them period.

Furthermore, you presume this will work. Some people keep asking. And asking. And now you've made it look like you'd do it but just couldnt that one time. So when you finally have to tell them directly, you make yourself a liar previous. Better a little mean then a lot mean.

And I can tell you as a guy we fucking HATE the excuse being used as actual rejection. Because then we go into doubt mode. Did you really have an excuse? Are you saying we should try again? Because we like you, so first impulse is to try again! Some folks are oblivious enough to not get the hint for a while. and maybe they have doubts, but they aren't sure so they want to keep trying but are afraid too and goddamn it what is she thinking yadda yadda. I mean, that's exactly the kinda drama that makes teenage years so miserable! And when they do get the hint, possibly when a third party beats them over the head with it, or when you've done it far more times then you probably planned, they feel like an idiot. And quite possibly resent you far more then the girl that told them they weren't interested the first time and saved everybody a lot of trouble.

In short, I legitimately think far more poorly of the person like you that makes excuses because even if you aren't trying to be passive aggressive that's how people are gonna take it. It's weakness in a different form from being a doormat, but it's still weakness that leads to hurt feelings. Better to be direct.