[ SECRET POST #2676 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2676 ⌋

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Comments

[silverr]

Maybe it's a question of terminology? Is there a better word for "a fascination with something [not usually thought of as sexual]"? (fetish?)

[rubbertea]

english is not my native language, so i'm not the best person to ask. maybe there is, but most people don't know about it. idk.

[silverr]

Yeah, I don't know either, but it's sort of like how kink_bingo got me to stop thinking of kink as always = porn (because it's actually possible to write G-rated kink)...

I guess a "nonsexual kink" can just be called a fascination (as someone suggested in another comment).

[(Anonymous)]

...if English is not your native language, why are you trying to tell English speakers how to use an already pretty nebulous term?

[herpymcderp]

It's actually not nebulous though. It's a BDSM term, which is ...well, yeah by nature pretty sexual.

[(Anonymous)]

Except it's not? Maybe it started as a BDSM term, I don't know the history, but it's a pretty broad term now that covers a lot more stuff than BDSM and I've definitely seen it used to apply to non-sexual things in fandom.

In fact, there are whole long lj discussions in fandom about what counts as a "kink."

So yeah, sorry, but pretty nebulous in common fandom usage.

[(Anonymous)]

BDSM isn't always strictly sexual either, though.

[lady_songsmith]

It's not BDSM. It's usually sexual, but it's expanding meaning. Even in a strictly sexual sense, though, it's not BDSM-based. Like, you can have a kink for nibbling on ears or something vanilla like that.

[visp]

Because even a non-native speaker can know enough of English to know when a word is used wrongly? Also, who says the OP is a native-English speaker?

[rubbertea]

because kink is not actually nebulous but pretty straightforward? it's not like we're trying to define irony here.

[(Anonymous)]

It IS pretty nebulous though, in terms of how broad it is and what qualifies as a kink. Like, say someone says she has a suspenders kink. Or a glasses kink. Just look at a kinkmeme and you'll see how wide and blurry the boundaries of the term "kink" are.

[(Anonymous)]

Why wouldn't those be kinks? I was always under the impression that a kink was a specific thing that got you hot and that it didn't matter what that thing was.

[philstar22]

As someone above said, BDSM isn't always sexual either. Often its just about giving up or taking control or some other psychological need without the sexual element at all.

[lady_songsmith]

I have no problem with 'kink' used in a non-sexual sense, since it's very definitely trending that way in usage, but perhaps 'predilection' or 'proclivity'?

'Fetish' would be the closest synonym, but to me a fetish is definitely sexual, but a kink might or might not.

[(Anonymous)]

If people want nebulous, perhaps we can go with the previous term for a non-sexual fascination: a 'thing'. As in "Ooooh, slinkies! I have a bit of a thing for slinkies!"

I like that the term 'kink' has sexual connotations simply because it separates my *thing* for slinkies (non-sexual) from my *kink* for blue eyes, or my *thing* about neck-touching (which is usually somewhat violent and panicked) and my *kink* for wrestling/holds (which is definitely sexual, though milder than you'd probably think, to the point where it's fun platonically).

I personally find that those terms work better because the vagueness of 'thing' really underscores that there's no particular reason why you like it, you just do, while 'kink' gives context for why.