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Re: Controversial opinions

[(Anonymous)]

Yay votes of confidence. FWIW, I'm really REALLY not vested in any view of women or anyone as lying bitches, honestly. What I am is (scum alert) a lawyer and yeah, actually do very much question the rates of false allegations (with a particular concern for wrongful convictions, which I have had some professional background in) for other crimes as well. The only sense in which I feel rape is actually different is not so much from a moral perspective such as "oh, falsely accusing someone of rape is WORSE than falsely accusing them of mugging," but more an issue that I don't actually know a good solution for, in that we as society (and/or we as an increasingly social justice oriented online generation) treat it differently in so many ways, not just those that you totally rightfully point out re what often happens to victims who do come forward, but (more and more as we make important progress in destigmatizing and caring for victims better) in how we sometimes view and treat anyone against whom even so much as a whiff of an accusation is made.

I think overall we need to be very careful about crime statistics in general, because they're really complicated but REALLY easy to manipulate with devastating effects on people. While it wasn't particularly relevant to the topic of this conversation, I am actually JUST as bothered by, say, mugging or murder or drug crime rates being distorted to make some supposed point about "those" people, whoever they might be. And I'm bothered by not actually having a comfortable sense of the right direction to go in since there's something of a rock and a hard place involved -- we absolutely need to ensure that victims of any crime can be safe and secure in their ability to come forward and seek both help and justice, but at the same time I feel we need to at least be realistic and honest about the fact that people DO lie about rape just like any other crime, and the consequences can be terrible for real people (not just faceless numbers), and I'm very, very bothered by what feels to me to be a growing radical myth of "believe every accuser no matter what" that is making it completely taboo in many circles to even suggest otherwise. Case in point: I'm a highly educated woman with a fairly broad range of professional legal experience dealing with things directly impacted by and involving these issues, and I do dare consider myself a pretty decent person and a feminist to the extent that radicals these days are not making me sort of uncomfortable with openly aligning myself with the actual "movement" -- but most of the time I point these things out I get accused of being an "MRA" right off the bat. I'm genuinely not, I just think that justice starts with honesty, and it's unfortunately the crime of rape that's particularly prone to having gussied up infographics with laughable claims bandied around the internet for political and/or ideological (which is not necessarily to say invalid -- my beef is with the means, not really the ends as long as we're not talking about the very small genuine radfem whacko minority) purposes.

I'll go check out those various organizations, thanks btw. It's been awhile since I updated myself on what reputable sources are reporting, anyway. Like I said, it's the manipulation of perfectly good, if complicated, data that gets to me and THAT seems to happen more frequently with rape in social justice culture these days than other crimes. So I do admittedly have some bone to pick with it.

(Also, thanks for a pleasant and calm talk about this. NOT usually how this conversation goes for me online.)