[ SECRET POST #2695 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2695 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

I'm okay with dudes that are into larger girls and not creepy about it, but it sort of rubs me the wrong way too if you glorify something I've struggled with for a large part of my life.

the problem with that is that every guy who is attracted to fat girls (and visa versa) is treated like they are a freak, like there is only one standard of beauty, and if you have a preference outside of that you are a creep.

[kallanda_lee]

I agree that is a problem.

To me the difference between just a guy who likes big girls and a guy who's a creep is pretty clear: Guys who like big girls will be into my looks, but otherwise be pretty regular in dealing with me. The "creeps" they sort of fall into several categories. One is the type who assumes you're desperate and that they're God's gift to you. Then there's the guys who have this like really unhealthy obsession about your size: like wanting to feed you more, or sort of asking weird questions about details of how you shop for clothes etc. Then there's guys who are a bit too much into the who matron/motherly thing - which, is not a harmful thing, but it's just really not me kink, and I don't particularly want to discuss it with you. etc. Worst thing I experienced was a guy old enough to be my granddad stalking me at work (I kid you not).

That being said, people have really weird preconceptions about beauty in general, and there's also this idea that romantic attraction sort of needs to be between equally (traditionally) hot people - or equally traditionally not-hot. While this often is the case, attraction just happens. It's not something we can control. Sure, we can fight it. But then we're just fighting ourselves.

I know with my bf and I, sometimes I see people looking like "why the hell are they together" - as I'm both heavier and taller than he is. And, people sort of suck that way. I've gotten shit before with from my family, because they wanted me to shut up about my ex having autism, like it was some huge mark of shame. There's thins thing where the more "normal" partner is basically sometimes told "you can do better" and it's really despicable is people are in love.