[ SECRET POST #2697 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2697 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Fringe]


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[Tales of series]


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[Revenge]


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[Starsky & Hutch]


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[Once Upon a Time]


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[Rozen Maiden]


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[Beyoncé]


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Comments

[fscom]

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[galerian-ash.livejournal.com]

I like your absolute certainty that everyone knows you just based on your fandoms.

[kaijinscendre]

I don't think I could recognize anyone from their fandoms. Except F1 stuff. I can remember a lot about people on here but that generally escapes me.

[cushlamochree]

I think it's probably easier if it's a combination of fandoms, rather than just one? But it also really depends a lot on the fandom in question - it would be a lot harder to guess who made a secret about Supernatural or MCU compared to, say, Murder Rooms or something like that.

e- not that it would be obvious with a fandom no matter how small, just an example

[kallanda_lee]

I can sort of get the paranoia, though. Especially in smaller fandoms, if you really don't want anyone to know you were OP.

[kaijinscendre]

Good thing I like mostly popular stuff. Eheheheh.

[(Anonymous)]

It's good to be aware of that stuff, especially if you're the only person in a bunch of small fandoms and your friends know it. If I listed my fandoms, my friends would know it was me. I wouldn't be surprised if it were that way for a lot of people, including OP.

[(Anonymous)]

Not OP, but if it's a small fandom then absolutely.

[forgottenjester]

I would actually know maybe a few people by their fandoms if they listed them. I generally don't pay attention but I just randomly know some people's fandoms.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry about your parents, OP.

But, absolutely healthy mentor/pupil relationships are possible. And I say this as somene who actually had a bit of an affair with a teacher (which was not the brightest of ideas) - but I've managed to not get into that pattern and have healthy relationships with mentors later in life.

[a_potato]

There's nothing wrong with wanting a mentor relationship. They can be hugely beneficial, particularly in cases such as yours. As long as you approach it with a mind toward what dynamics are healthy (and the fact that you recognize what isn't healthy means that you can), then you should be fine.

[iceyred]

While I might hate on grad school with the fury of a thousand burning suns, it is a good place to find mentors.

I can't think of any place else. Sorry, OP. That's all I got.

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[(Anonymous)]

I have some problems with my dad (he isn't abusive or anything, it's just that we have some very differing opinions and aren't too close)

I developed a close mentor type relationship with my homeroom teacher and our relationship is pretty accepting and supporting. Shortly after I met him I had some weird "romantic like feelings" towards him (in hindsight, it would probably be more accurately described as a "squish") which freaked me out a bit mostly due to his age and the fact I wasn't actually attracted to him.
Eventually that wasn't the case anymore and which is good because he's helped me through a ton of shit (whether or no he is actually aware of it)

Something similar happened with another teacher I had (fortunately it wasn't as weird because the relationship was much less paternal and he wasn't as old as my dad) But it was more of a "I'm in love with your personality" kind of thing.

Over time, I've realized that many of the same traits you look for in a romantic partner are often the same you look for in a mentor/friend (open minded, interesting, funny, etc.) so it can be easy to confuse those feelings. Learning this was good because I don't feel like I'm fucked up mentally.

[solticisekf]

Maybe you can try to get it out of your system via reading fic? I'm not sure what issue with this type of relationship do you mean, but craving unhealthy relationships just about constitutes 70% of romantic fiction, for example, so I don't think it's a problem as you seem to know that the things you like are problematic.

[forgottenjester]

If you're in school you could find a teacher. A lot of them have time for students who want guidance.

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe you should go into therapy? Granted, you'll probably transfer all your mentor issues onto your therapist, but they're normally trained to anticipate and handle that sort of thing and it should even be a safe space for you to explore that dynamic.

(I crushed and crushed hard on my psychiatrist when I was in treatment. He remained a consummate professional even after I confessed my crush to him and we ended up analyzing what it was about him that I found so compelling. No boundaries were ever crossed.)

[(Anonymous)]

For mentor relationships without issues go watch Endeavour (crime show on ITV). It's perfect.