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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-05-29 07:09 pm

[ SECRET POST #2704 ]


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Re: gotta vent

(Anonymous) 2014-05-30 11:29 pm (UTC)(link)
OP
sorry this is late... in case you're still around...
the difficult situation stems from my dad being an alcoholic. She has to support him too, and always has.

Re: gotta vent

(Anonymous) 2014-05-31 02:08 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry to hear that, OP.

But even if your dad is an alcoholic, it shouldn't fall on you to support the household. I don't know how much help and/or counseling your dad is getting, but either it isn't enough or your mother may be enabling him as well (maybe not in the drinking, but in the sense he may possibly feel he can't or doesn't need to get a job that contributes more to the household). But I also know I'm going on very little information and am likely making a lot of bad assumptions as well.

All I can say is that this is an unhealthy dynamic that needs to change. You say your family needs you to take care of them. But if you don't find a way to take care of yourself, how long do you think you'll be around, much less to do the task currently being asked of you?

Re: gotta vent

(Anonymous) 2014-05-31 03:36 pm (UTC)(link)
If your mom is enabling your alcoholic father, then frankly she's probably setting you up, intentionally or not, for you to do the same thing with your brother. There is a really unhealthy balance between the sexes going on here, and it's probably only going to get worse rather than better.

(Also, if you can afford it? Maybe get a lock for your bedroom door.)