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The could you be polyamorous thread.

Nope.

No. I love it in theory, but in practice I'd get way too jealous.

I think? I've never thought about this before, but my gut reaction is, "I'd be willing to give it a shot." The thing is though, I think it really depends on the other people in the relationship and levels of jealousy, because jealousy is almost always a key factor on why they don't work in fiction, and I'm pretty sure that's not too far off from reality. If the question assumes no jealousy from the other people I'm in a relationship with, I think it would all still really depend for me, I'd still want to try it out first.

Hell no. I'm way too jealous and possessive for that and can barely get along with one person at a time.

So long as I trust my partner(s) to be careful and selective, and they're okay that we will never have sex with without protection, but that's standard even in a monogamous relationship, for me. I might only start to care if they play video games without me. Like, no, have sex, go to dinner, go to baseball games, engage in PDA on a park bench, whatever, but do not play co-op behind my back, my feelings will be so hurt.

Unless it's something crappy like Call of Duty, that's okay. Priorities~

Maybe, but I haven't been in a position where I could test the theory and right now I'm not even sure if I want one partner or if I'd be happier being single forever.

Dunno, I've never tried. Never had an especially long-lasting relationship with a single person either.

Been there, done that, would do it again.

(Was the happy third in an open marriage. Even if it was one of those once-in-a-lifetime things, I'll always have the memories, which are by and large happier than my monogamous relationships have been.)

I've been in an open relationship for years now and would never go back to monogamy, but having multiple relationships does sound very tricky. I'd give it a shot but I think I don't have enough free time to make it work.

I don't even have the tolerance to be in a relationship with one person.

Been there, done that, not going there again.

No. Some people are made for them, some people aren't. I have a friend who's dating... 3 people, I think? She lives with her girlfriend and then she's also dating a couple (a guy and a girl). At least, I think that's right, I might have gotten it confused. And I think her girlfriend also has a boyfriend.

See, I don't even think I got their whole relationships right, but everyone involved seems happy, so good for them. :]

I don't think so. To be 100% honest I wouldn't want to be but I feel like it's probably the only way I'll ever be in a relationship again so...I guess it's probably the reason I'll be single forever.

I think so? But I'm pretty insecure and tend to get jealous so I could also see it not working out. But I think my ideal relationship is a triad. Like in theory I really really like it and find myself daydreaming about it a lot, I just don't know if in reality I could make it work.

To the extent that I'd be capable of being in any relationship, I'd like to think so? I'm asexual and, ah, mostly asocial as well, for various reasons, and basically I'm not good at people full stop. But I've no particular objection to the idea of polyamory, and I think it might almost be reassuring to know that my partners would have each other and/or outsiders for when they need things I'm not able to give them right now.

However, my main concern with the idea of any relationship with me in it is that, generally, I can't imagine myself as being a particularly compelling reason to stick around, especially when they have other people to love as well. It might be a nice thing to have in passing, though. For however long it might last. An open relationship or a fairly stable network relationship sound pretty appealing, though the more intense triad relationships are probably more than I could sustain for any length of time.

Hell no.

Been doing just that for... oh, thirteen years now?

Christ, I'm old.

Nah, too much pressure.

I'd be calling out the wrong name every time.

Huh, never really thought about it. I... think so? As long as I wasn't being full-out ignored or anything, I don't think I'd have problems as far as jealousy or insecurity. On the other hand, I could barely dredge up the motivation to put much effort into the one monogamous relationship I've had, so it's hard to imagine being an equal and responsible member of a polyamorous one. On the other other hand, I certainly hope that if I ever date again, whether it's one person or ten, it'll be someone I'm a lot more into than the last guy.

If we're just talking an open relationship kind of poly, that's what I considered my last relationship to be since my boyfriend wanted sex and I didn't. He never took me up on that, though-- at least as far as I'm aware-- so it was open in name only.

I can barely handle my friends spending more time with our other friends. I would never be able to handle a polyamorous relationship (at least not unless I was getting the majority of the attention)

No, but with the added bonus of not being interested in even trying. Nope, never, not happening.

Funny story. I'm engaged, and two of our friends are engaged, one of whom I've known for awhile and probably would have had a crush on if I hadn't been dating the actual fiancee the entire time.

Now things aren't going so well with the actual fiancee... and as the wedding of the other couple approaches, I had a dream where the one I don't know as well came to me and was like "So basically, we decided we want to share you! We know you're ace, so you don't have to do anything physical you don't want to do, but you're welcome to join in however you're comfortable with!"

I was... surprisingly okay with this, and surprisingly disappointed when I woke up.

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