[ SECRET POST #2718 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2718 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Mayim Bialik]


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Comments

[diet_poison]

I just looked up "attachment parenting" and that doesn't seem to be a very big deal (and includes stuff that's common sense/common practice anyway). Is there something about this particular book that's weird or unsound?

[seventh_seal]

I haven't read Mayim's book, all I did was listen to an hour of her talking to Howard Stern, but in her description, attachment parenting sounded pretty extreme ... or maybe it did to me. Probably depends how far you take it, like everything.

eg. She talked about how they didn't use diapers and kids slept in bed with her and sometimes accidents happened ... or how she had to breastfeed her five-yeard-old on the underground to calm him down ... I dunno, maybe I'm exaggerating, this is what stuck in my mind.

[diet_poison]

yeahhh, that is pretty extreme.

Wikipedia basically said things like "it's breastfeeding, co-sleeping, and holding your kid a lot" and didn't age-specify but it seemed like they were talking about infants and maybe toddlers. Breastfeeding a 5-year-old definitely seems really weird and probably Not A Good Thing to me.

ETA: doesn't mean I'm 100% in favor of it, I would never co-sleep with a baby because I'd be terrified of rolling over and squishing them in the night. o__O but I definitely think breastfeeding (to a reasonable age) and having plenty of physical contact with an infant are good things.

[seventh_seal]

Yeah, I'm not sure how the co-sleeping works, but I know I'm a deep sleeper and (OK, this is getting ridiculous now) and it sometimes happens to me that I literally kick off my cat from the bed so ... yeah, poor baby.

[diet_poison]

at least cats can land on their feet most of the time! babies...not so much...

I'm a very deep sleeper as well. and while I usually fall asleep in a specific position, I often wake up to find I've moved around a lot in the night.

[(Anonymous)]

I was afraid of co-sleeping before I had a kid for the same reasons, but believe me when I say that you will not fall into a deep sleep while that baby is on the bed. And even when you do fall asleep you're still aware of where exactly the baby is at. Co-sleeping isn't always fun, but sometimes it's the only way to get a baby to sleep, and once you have a newborn you will do ANYTHING to get that child to sleep.

[ketita]

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While I know there are perfectly reasonable kids who have been breasfed until older-ish, the worst kid I have ever known was like 7-8 years old and still breastfeeding. His mom put absolutely no boundaries on it, like we'd be in a meeting and he'd come over and ask for her tit. It was ridiculous. And he would just play around with it.

Then again, there was the time his mom was holding hands with him in the car 'cause he wouldn't stop screaming, while she was driving, while she was talking on the phone.... using her elbow on the steering wheel....

[diet_poison]

Ok, that's creepy.

...and that's dangerous.

The whole thing there is just "nope".