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fandomsecrets2014-06-12 06:40 pm
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⌈ Secret Post #2718 ⌋
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Re: What's Wrong With Attachment Parenting?
For me, there is also a slightly more personal objection to a certain aspect of your description of attachment parenting: the idea that it's about both the child's preference/instinct and the mothers. When I was a very young kid, my family life got rough and I wanted to sleep with my mom for a few months, and I'm glad she let me. What I'm not so glad about is having to continue to sleep with her due to her anxieties when I wanted to return to my own bed. I know this is hardly the case for everyone or even that many, but this is an anecdote I use to highlight my issue with attachment parenting - that it's not for the good of the child, but because parents are justifying them projecting their anxieties onto their children.
I have a lot of issues with parenting fads and certain popular parenting choices in general, though, so it's only only attachment parenting I'm critical of. Hell, my own mom was given crap for some of her parenting moves (i.e. leaving the noise level at normal when I went to sleep instead of trying to make the house quiet).
As for the biological hardwiring issue: meant to be. Doesn't mean they are, and it doesn't mean we should be reinforcing the idea that a woman is a bad mom because she doesn't spend enough time with her children, doesn't breastfeed them for long, or is abusive for sending her kids to daycare so she can have a career...but that is unfortunately a theme I've seen among the vast majority of attachment parents, regardless of how reasonable they are on most other aspects. Not to mention it's always attachment moms. Maybe I'm just looking in the wrong places, but I have not seen nearly as much about attachment dads, or anything suggesting a man is a monster for choosing to balance his career with his children instead of placing his children first.
Re: What's Wrong With Attachment Parenting?
Re: What's Wrong With Attachment Parenting?
I have...a lot of thoughts on parenting and child development and education, mostly because I'm an odd intersection where I brushed up against or interacted with lots of variety in all those contexts, instead of just being overly invested in one direction. Which means pretty much everyone disagrees with me no matter what I say. :P