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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-06-21 04:20 pm

[ SECRET POST #2727 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2727 ⌋

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Re: Enthusiastic consent

(Anonymous) 2014-06-22 03:56 am (UTC)(link)
It's not really that people don't want to avoid it. Most people do. It's more that there's no guarantee that two people will say sexually compatible for the duration of their relationship. In fact, the likelihood is that, at some point, their libidos and interests will diverge, and they'll have to find some way to deal with it.

It's very easy for some people to say, "well, they should break up, then." But most people in committed relationships do not love or want to be with their partners solely for sex. So, when problems crop up in the bedroom, they seek ways to work around them rather than throw in the towel. That can lead to instances of "unethusiastic" consent. But those instances aren't necessarily depressing, if they're coming from a place of mutual love, respect, and understanding.

Re: Enthusiastic consent

(Anonymous) 2014-06-22 04:03 am (UTC)(link)
This. No matter how much you love someone, there will be times when you just aren't really feeling it, but you're willing to do it BECAUSE you love the other person and want to make them happy.