[ SECRET POST #2772 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2772 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Audrey Tatou, Coco Avant Chanel]


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[Orange is the New Black]


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[Recettear]


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[Mad Men]


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[Game of Thrones]


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[Archer]


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[Kate Beaton's Hark! A Vagrant]


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[Sleepy Hollow]


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[Divergent]













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Re: F!Sers you would go out on a date with

[elialshadowpine]

Yes, she was close to Mom while we were dating. She was closer to my Mom than her own, and also, my Mom is a retired psych nurse. Honestly, I suspect that she was probably trying to get some advice, but she's not willing to actual listen to advice that requires compromise or change on her part (something my mom realized and found frustrating).

I'd also found out she has been saying things to my mom over the last year and some that bothered me a lot. I knew about this one earlier on, right when we first got together, upon when my mom saw my wheelchair and realized how badly I was off. She commented on it and Grey made a comment to her about how I was helpless, I needed a caretaker, and that she loved me and that was her reason for being here. This struck me as sweet at the time but something about it bothered me, and it's the codependence, really. It's also that she put me into a role where I was "helpless", and anytime I tried to do anything my own, she argued and fought with me. It was not worth fighting over, but that is a really fucked up attitude to go into a relationship with someone who is disabled with, and it's fucked up to say to someone's mother. She was trying to get brownie points, I think.

Yeah, I ended up having to have a long talk where I basically had to defend myself because she had poisoned the well so much that my mom was coming into it thinking that we were being unreasonable. It didn't help my sister was really very close with her. I ended up having to have some very uncomfortable conversations, and while eventually, my mom came to the same conclusion we did, especially considering that Grey's behavior and complaints, combined with what we were saying we had done, were completely unreasonable and obviously ... well, it's been agreed that she has a major martyr complex. She HAS to be the victim, no matter what. It makes me wonder about a lot of things she told me about the past.

Yeah, that she thought I would fake a seizure just sickens me. Those are HELLISH. The bad ones, I come out aphasiac, with a bad headache/migraine, dizzy, weak, I have trouble telling where I am, I often can't verbalize them, it's just awful. But because it's not a grand mal seizure, and because I get auras and I can push them "back" by a few minutes. Not indefinitely but enough that I have enough time to get to safety. According to a friend of mine with partial complex seizures, this is not uncommon. Even though she saw that conversation, being part of the chronic illness community (which, given I had been part of the community since 07, they booted the fuck out of her when they found out what she was doing; even regardless of what she was doing to me, her behavior was very unsafe for other members too), she still didn't believe me. So, she thought I was faking. It's especially awful given she has severe health issues of her own.

Yes, I think we are looking at the ceremony at one inn, then afterwards dinner at a nearby restaurant, to be decided upon. The nearby one at Mt Rainier is definitely in the running but there is also the Mt Rainier Train that has reservations for the Dinner Train, which might be actually very cool to do. Looking at this, actually, I think this may be a winner because they have a wider range of food options and we have ... a lot of picky eaters. I just sent them an email for info on their packages to see what they have, eee.

We definitely want some honeymoon time but that will depend what we are able to save and honestly I don't see a dire need to have more than a three day weekend or so anyway, which is doable.

I actually got to show my fiance the waistcoat and he thumbs upped it! Yay! He's broad shouldered, sorta general geeky shape, more muscley in the arms because he does a lot more lifting and stuff, does have a bit of a beer belly, but I think that the waistcoat would actually help with that, especially if in black. My fiancee really likes the black skirt and shirt set with the corset, so ... I think we actually have our wedding clothing picked out!

Now the question we probably have next is how much of the wedding party we are also outfitting. Scott's daughter (and Omi's daughter/stepdaughter) Boo is 16yo and has demanded the role of flower girl. XD We probably also want to include family (like my married partner, Omi's married husband, Scott's adult daughter, potentially my mom) in the handfasting ceremony. Weirdly, I'd prefer to buy people involved pretty outfits than spend a lot of money on catering, flowers, expensive cake, etc... especially since these are clothing that I KNOW my family would wear again. My married partner continued to wear their wedding jacket that was bought specifically for the occasion until it was ruined by an ex housemate/ex boyfriend who, when a cat had an accident, instead of washing it, buried it in a large pile of ruined cat peed clothing until it was beyond repair.

Sorry for going on a fair bit, I'm excited but I'm also a bit manic at the moment having been awake a rather long time. We are definitely starting early for both affordability and to give us more time to plan. If needed we'll end up planning out further; it can always go to spring of the next year if needed. (It might need that; I have promised a wedding gift for a very dear friend by hopefully this spring, for her fiance to come out from Australia to Canada so they can get married and get the ball rolling on immigration, I have a convention in April, and I have Worldcon in Spokane around Labor Day in 2015... so, ack, this might not work out timing wise. Will have to discuss. Eep.)