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fandomsecrets2014-08-14 06:44 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2014-08-14 06:44 pm
[ SECRET POST #2781 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2781 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 022 secrets from Secret Submission Post #397.
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(Anonymous) 2014-08-15 08:02 am (UTC)(link)I know from personal experience how rough it can be when your SO's parents decide they hate you. When I first got together with my boyfriend, neither of his parents approved of our relationship or thought highly of me. Six and a half years down the line, they've gotten over it. I hope things will get better for you with time as well, but even if your girlfriend's mother never stops being awful, it's your girlfriend that you're talking about marrying, not your future mother-in-law. Your girlfriend gets to make her own life decisions, and eventually she is going to need to realize that having her mother back-seat-drive her romantic life is neither fun nor healthy, and that she needs to push back, both for her own sake as well as for yours.
My advice: listen to what your girlfriend says, not what her mother says. Your girlfriend says she wants marriage and kids with you. Her mother is the one with the problem, but you're not marrying the mother. Some parents are controlling, and get upset when their kids deviate from the carefully charted path they've laid out for the kids' lives. That's a problem between your girlfriend and her mother, and taking you out of the picture isn't going to make the problem go away - it'll just spring up again the next time your girlfriend disagrees with her mom, and in the meantime you'll be depriving your girlfriend of a relationship with someone she says she wants to marry. Don't leave her "for her sake" when she's actively telling you that's the opposite of what she wants.
I really do hope things get better for you, Anon. *hugs if wanted*
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(Anonymous) 2014-08-15 10:14 pm (UTC)(link)