[ SECRET POST #2792 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2792 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 047 secrets from Secret Submission Post #399.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

But everyone including you are ordering OP to get therapy even after they mentioned, in their secret, that they don't have the funds to travel and meet a lot of people. If you're not going to pay for it or do anything other than say "get help," then feel productive, stop concern trolling.

I'm not ignoring anything, I know exactly what happened. A lot of people in this thread, despite claiming they want OP to force themselves into a relationship, want OP to force themselves to crush on real people. OP worded his/her emotions to insinuate "fictional characters are better than people," and it makes people mad when someone shows superiority over them. Couple that with the anon choosing to be single and having been abused, of course everyone is going to lecture and victim blame and tell OP they are the problem.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not ordering OP to do anything. Saying "that doesn't sound healthy" and "you might want to get that checked out" is not ordering someone to do something, and expressing concern is not, in and of itself, trolling.

Additionally, not having the funds to travel =/= not having the funds to go to the doctor. You seem to be maintaining a separation between mental health and other sorts of health concerns, so let me be perfectly clear on my POV: mental health issues should be treated no differently from other health issues. They are one and the same, and it's a travesty both that therapy is considered "extra," above and beyond regular medical attention, and that many people still cannot afford medical attention (assuming that OP actually doesn't have the funds to go to the doctor).

What you are ignoring, anon, is the most important part of the secret. Forget the thread. I said that I think most people aren't getting the point, and I said that OP doesn't need to be in a relationship (not everyone wants to be, and there's nothing wrong with that), so there's no need to continue focusing on that. If someone is continually winding up with the same type of person, and that type of person always treats them very poorly, then something is very, very wrong. It doesn't mean that OP is to blame for having been treated poorly (abusers are always responsible for abuse); it doesn't mean that OP is the problem. But it does mean that s/he most likely has a problem, and that problem is not shameful; it's no different from having a physical condition (the closest analogues I can think of are things like arthritis, Crohn's and MS). Whether or not s/he does anything about it is ultimately up to him/her, and if s/he does eventually do something about it, whether or not s/he decides to stay single is immaterial, because that's not the bit that comes across as being unhealthy.