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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-09-17 07:11 pm

[ SECRET POST #2815 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2815 ⌋

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[John Green]


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(Hemlock Grove)


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[Russell Edwards' Naming Jack the Ripper]


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Re: A psychology question...or maybe an ethics question. Or both.

(Anonymous) 2014-09-18 02:02 pm (UTC)(link)
In that situation, the parent will probably never forgive themselves anyway.

In the case of a less fatal mistake, I would judge their character based on whether they are genuinely remorseful and take responsibility.

If you've ever known someone who cheated on their partner and blamed them/had a bunch of "reasons" when their partner didn't do anything? Yeah, that kind of thing.

Re: A psychology question...or maybe an ethics question. Or both.

(Anonymous) 2014-09-18 10:26 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, for a cheater who blames their partner for their weakness, yeah.

But if someone cheats because their partner just quit being affectionate, or is withholding sex for long periods of time, or if they're separated for many months at a time, or even if the partner experiences a horrible accident/disease that reverts their mind back to childhood or makes them a permanent unresponsive vegetable or whatever, I don't think I could put the blame entirely on the cheater. I think in many cases, cheating is not the problem, but rather, a symptom of the problem.

Guy getting pressured to settle down and ends up cheating on his wife repeatedly? In this case, I would blame the guy, but I wouldn't say the problem is cheating. I'd say the problem is that he lacks the courage to live his life honestly, and be honest with the ones he's close to. Unfortunately, an innocent woman (and possibly more than one) get hurt by this. And he has no right to blame his partner when he's the one who misled her.