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⌈ Secret Post #2823 ⌋

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Comments

Re: What's the difference between asexual romance and really close friendship?

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think anyone's saying that the love between friends is somehow inferior to the love between romantic partners. What people are saying is that romantic love is not dependent on sex.

Re: What's the difference between asexual romance and really close friendship?

[(Anonymous)]

yet no one has really explained what non-sexual romantic love is, besides giving examples that people with close friendships readily admit to also doing.

Re: What's the difference between asexual romance and really close friendship?

[(Anonymous)]

I think that's because it's really difficult to explain.

I'm going to copy a bit of what I said to the anon downthread: I don't love my closest friends in the same way that I love my parents. I don't love my spouse in the same way that I love my closest friends. And when I lost my sex drive due to a medical issue, my feelings for my spouse were still distinct from my feelings for the other people that I love.

I think the problem is that, despite there being many different types of love, English only has the one word for it. I'm trying to think of how to describe the way I feel about my parents vs. the way I feel about my friends vs. the way I feel about my spouse, and I literally have no idea how to describe it. I know only that the set of feelings is different for each of them.

Also, as far as "giving examples that people with close friendships admit to doing:" I'm not sure too many people in close friendships make out with each other.

Re: What's the difference between asexual romance and really close friendship?

[(Anonymous)]

For what it's worth, I think this is the best explanation (and really, the only explanation) throughout this thread. I can agree completely that maybe it's English's fault that we only have one word for love, and not enough words to qualify love. Romantic love, platonic love, familial love... and that's all I can think of. Maybe it'd be better if we had a word that implied partnership and desire to connect emotionally, not sexually, though I still feel that could describe a close friend, too - but "intimate partnership" or something of that sort might do better to describe an asexual relationship.