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Re: What's the difference between asexual romance and really close friendship?

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

Ah. I see what you mean.

Leaving aside the issue of sex or no sex, I think people valuing romantic love above friendship is one of those things that's just so ingrained in the culture that people just don't even think about it. You're expected to find a significant other, get married, raise kids, and stay together forever. Of course that isn't realistic, especially give how common divorce is these days, but it's what you're "supposed" to do. While it's understood that your friends can be important to you, ultimately they're "only" people you maybe hang out with from time to time, and they're not going to be as important as your significant other/spouse. (Not that I necessarily agree with any of this, just that it's "the way it is" at least in my experience.)

Obviously there are a lot of people who don't find into that mold, which I think is why there ultimately is no clear cut answer, like a couple other people in this thread have said. It's going to be different for everybody, and I think trying to explain your own definition of romantic love to someone else is essentially pointless because it can vary so wildly based on what sort of culture you grew up in, what examples of romantic relationships you had growing up, your own experiences, what you personally value in a relationship, etc.

In the end I think the only definition I can really give is, like someone below said, "it's a romantic relationship if the people in it agree that it is". That's not to say romantic relationships are any more or less important than friendships, but there's definitely a distinction in my mind, even if I can't articulate exactly what that distinction is.