[ SECRET POST #2839 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2839 ⌋

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Comments

Op

[(Anonymous)]

Thanks. In part I already started telling them how I feel, but I'm taking things slowly because I don't want to scare them away. with time hopefully we'll tackle this problem!

Re: Op

[(Anonymous)]

You mean YOUR problem, because that's precisely what it is.

Re: Op

[(Anonymous)]

No, it's her friend's problem. Using fandom as a crutch isn't healthy and OP trying to gently tell her friend about it is being a good friend.

Re: Op

[(Anonymous)]

But neither you nor OP know that that's what the friend is doing, that's the point. OP is just bothered by their friend's behaviour, we don't actually know whether the friend themselves feels it's a problem, and unless they do or they actively ask for help then OP is being incredibly overbearing in their "I do not approve of this!" attitude.

Re: Op

[(Anonymous)]

Whether or not they're using fandom as a crutch (and there are far worse things to use as a crutch, and that fact that you're judging it at all makes me conclude you have no comprehension of how low someone needs to be to behave that way in the first place -- something a "good friend" should have picked up on sooner and not dismissively blame on "excessive" fandoming, don't you think?) isn't the issue. It's still not OP's place to tell their friend to stop it, any more than it was the other Anon in this thread's place to tell their friend they thought their fandoming was wrong and 'frustating' for them. Whether or not the friend comes to a realization on their own still has absolutely nothing to do with you. It's their choice.

It's YOU who can't deal with your friends' behavior, therefore the problem does not lie with the friend. It might do in your opinion, but again that's your issue to deal with. It's YOUR frustration, and superiority, and judgement, so yes, it's YOUR problem.