[ SECRET POST #2841 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2841 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

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I think OP, in the comment you're replying to, showed an example of what some people mentioned here: hold female characters to higher standards than the male ones. Too much nitpicking here.
Compared to the other secondary characters, Uhura is far better. Even in the EU (expanded universe e.g., the comics) she's more developed than the guys.
Zoe Saldana is one of the top billed but this doesn't make her the protagonist at the level of Kirk and Spock. This is very stupid, miss Saldana is the most popular actress of them all because she's in 3 big franchises of course she's among the top billed. But she isn't more a protagonist than McCoy and I dare you to tell me that McCoy gets his own storyline and character development that isn't being the best friend of the main character.

Another big problem in that argument is the lack of intersectional feminism: you can't ignore that Uhura is a black woman who wasn't allowed to be a love interest in the original series because of fucking racism. Her character wasn't a love interest but she also wasn't developed at all, even though they had 3 seasons and 6 movies to give her more to do. For black girls, having characters that are love interests isn't a bad stereotype or trope because, for them, the opposite is the trope. So it's very problematic for white feminists to want to push on women of color standards and stereotypes that aren't really valid for them too. In short, people like OP are saying that WOC should still not be allowed to have loving relationships and acknowledged as attractive ladies ONLY because white girls are reduced to that all the time and white girls are sick of it.
Woc see that as dehumanizing though. For them presentation is not 'strong independent woman who doesn't need no man' because they're always that and in their case that had always been an excuse to not acknowledge them as human beings that deserve love, care and protection like white women.

I get that OP doesn't like characters that she can't relate to but there is a difference between not being able to relate to a character because you don't share their choices (e.g., seek love) or sexual orientation (or race, religion) and saying that just because you don't like something then it must be universally wrong and deserving hate by default. Or that other women have to relate to the same things you relate to.

[lunabee34]

I wish you could see how frantically I am nodding along with everything you're saying here. I agree emphatically. All the adverbs are happening here.

I get that OP doesn't like characters that she can't relate to but there is a difference between not being able to relate to a character because you don't share their choices (e.g., seek love) or sexual orientation (or race, religion) and saying that just because you don't like something then it must be universally wrong and deserving hate by default. Or that other women have to relate to the same things you relate to.

This is the part that's getting to me the most and the reason I think that I just don't need to engage about this issue anymore.

I have noticed that fandom spaces tend to be disproportionately filled with people who are not interested in women being depicted in romantic relationships in media. Although such statements may exist out there in the ether, I have never seen a male character derided for being just a love interest or just a father or just a husband (outside of the comments made specifically to me in this thread), but I routinely see women called out for being *mere* love interests, *mere* mothers, *mere* wives all the time.

And referring back to my comment about Uhura, if Scotty did fall in love with a nice Andorian, fandom would never call him a mere love interest, even though his screen time, importance to the plot and what we've learned about his personal life is on par with Uhura who is called such all the time.

I do not think that someone has to pursue a romantic relationship in order to live a meaningful, happy, and fulfilled life. Same goes for having children. I think there's valid criticism to be made for the dearth of media in which nobody pursues a romantic relationship. I am all for protagonists who do not pursue romantic relationships.

However, many people in RL pursue romantic relationships. It's a fairly common thing for people to do which is why it's commonly depicted in media. And at a certain point when I've read chorus after chorus of *mere* female love interest, I start to feel like these people must consider ME a *mere* female love interest in my own life story. Being a wife and a mother is a huge part of my identity. They aren't the only components: I have a career and hobbies and friends and other family members. But a significant part of my life every day is devoted to my romantic relationship and the children that resulted from that relationship. And when I see female characters dismissed over and over again for making similar choices, it really, really rankles.

I don't know if part of it is I'm hanging out in places that skew really young and are full of people who are at a point in their lives when they don't want to pursue romantic relationships--if you haven't had one before, maybe it truly isn't clear how much of your life that kind of relationship touches and that it isn't psychologically unhealthy for your romantic relationship to be an integral part of your identity.

IDK

Anyway, thanks for talking with me.