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⌈ Secret Post #2860 ⌋

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Comments

[dinogrrl]

Yeah that's a tough one :/. I've been in your friend's position, when it comes to playing violin. I had a teacher outright tell me that I have no problem with all of the technical aspects of playing, but I played like I had no soul. And really? I already knew that was true, so I wasn't hurt by the comment. It just helped to hear it from someone other than myself.

It's possible your friend's in the same boat I was, though I certainly wouldn't suggest giving them crit unless they have asked for it, or if they accept if you ask to give it. And then I still wouldn't suggest being as blunt as my teacher was :p unless you and your friend roll that way.

As far as suggestions to give your friend, what's their writing/reading background? Sometimes it really helps to read/write all sorts of styles and genres just to learn what you DON'T like, and that may help them to really show their passion for the things they DO like. And passion aside, you can always learn a few tricks from other styles.

[(Anonymous)]

Have you, um, got any tips for people playing soulless music? Because that's my brother on the piano you're describing, and it's really sort of painful to listen when he practices.

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT, but in my case (not with music) the soullessness comes from a place of fear and lack of confidence. I was always holding back from putting me into the work, if that makes sense, and it was that distance that created the by-the-numbers feeling. Could it be something like that with your brother?

[(Anonymous)]

That's... possible, actually, because that's a pretty spot on description of how I go around my own instrument (in a small amateur ensemble where no-one is particularly skilled, I need to stress).

Huh.

[dinogrrl]

Like the other anon said, I think for me, a big part of my problem was not having enough self-confidence to let go and allow emotion into my playing. I knew the notes, I knew the techniques, but I was still afraid.
(Also, keep in mind that practice sessions are not always the best judge of how 'soulful' music is, especially if you're still in the learning stages of technique.)

For me, what helped was a combination of memorizing music and trying a different genre. I am very ADHD and memorizing music puts me in a happy place; once I have the notes and techniques drilled into my head, I'm better able to just let myself go into the music. I don't have to worry so much about messing up because I know I won't.
And the different genre, I was in choir in college because they didn't have string orchestra but I still wanted to be in music. So it wasn't really my 'thing', so to speak, and whenever I do something that I'm not really into, my attitude is mostly "okay, eff this, I'm just gonna do whatever" and that...actually ended up helping me a lot in my violin playing too.
A third thing that helped was me realizing that my true passion is a very specific style of music. I still had to learn everything else, and I still play just about any (classical) style nowadays, but when I play what I love, you can tell a difference.

All that being said, it's been a slow process (25+ years). Learning to be confident and not afraid to show yourself isn't an overnight thing.